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9/11/2013 0 Comments

Don't be too late...

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I read this blog post; "My Advice To Married Couples After Divorcing My Wife Of 16 Years By Gerald Rogers."And I have to say that it was moving on many levels. The author provides a list of "Do's" and "Don'ts" for men in terms of how one should relate to his wife. Now, while the message was couched in a hetero-normative worldview, I think there are some good lessons in this post, which anyone in a relationship could benefit from learning.  

"SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, 
and NEVER GET LAZY in your love."
Roger's first piece of advice is to "Never Stop Courting." This may be the most simple way to explain how to stave off the much feared rut that relationship partners sometimes describe. People, over time, can get bored with each other due to lack of engagement. Take a moment to think about what it means to stop courting your sweetheart... 

When you court someone, you try your best to make them understand that you are interested and that you are worth being interested in. Think abut how you would feel if your sweetheart stopped courting you... Why would you want to spend time with a person who seems to not care if you are around and who does not seem to care if you want them around? You wouldn't...

With that in mind, and with plenty of good reminders and advice from Gerald Rogers, I'm about to head home to see my Lady. And I have a couple of ideas for how to reminder her that she's the only one I want... 

So here is a question for y'all.

 When you go home today, how will you greet your partner? How will you make that greeting special? Let us know...


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